The following information is provided by RAINN, 1in6.org, and SASC, Inc.
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Statistics:
  • As of 1998, 2.78 million men in the U.S. had been victims of attempted or completed rape.(1)
  • About 3% of American men—or 1 in 33—have experienced an attempted or completed rape in their lifetime.(1)
  • 1 out of every 10 rape victims are male.(2)
  • One in six boys will be sexually abused before they turn 18 years old.(9)
  • 40.2% gay men, 47.4% bisexual men and 20.8% heterosexual men reported sexual violence other than rape during their lifetimes.(3)
  • Approximately one in 45 men has been made to penetrate an intimate partner during his lifetime.(4)
  • 9% of the victims of rape and sexual assault are male.(5)
  • 35% of men report significant short-term or long-term impacts such as PostTraumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).(6)
  • 27.8% of men were age 10 or younger at the time of their first rape/victimization.(6)
  • The average age at which boys first become victims of "prostitution" is 11 to 13 years old.(7)
  • One in 16 men are sexually assaulted while in college.(8)
Common reactions:
Men and boys who have been sexually assaulted may experience the same effects of sexual assault as other survivors, and they may face other challenges that are more unique to their experience. Men who were sexually abused as boys or teens may respond differently than men who were sexually assaulted as an adult.

​If something happened to you, know that you are not alone. The following list includes some of the common experiences shared by men and boys who have survived sexual assault. It is not a complete list, but it may help you to know that other people are having similar experiences:
  • Anxiety, depression, fearfulness, or post-traumatic stress disorder
  • Concerns or questions about sexual orientation
  • Sense of blame or shame over not being able to stop the assault or abuse, especially if you experienced an erection or ejaculation
  • Feeling on-edge, being unable to relax, and having difficulty sleeping
  • Feel like "less of a man" or that you no longer have control over your own body
  • Avoiding people or places that are related to the assault or abuse
  • Fear of the worst happening and having a sense of a shortened future
  • Withdrawal from relationships or friendships and an increased sense of isolation
Who are the perpetrators of sexual assault against men and boys? 
Perpetrators can be any gender identity, sexual orientation, or age, and they can have any relationship to the victim. Like all perpetrators, they might use physical force or psychological and emotional coercion tactics.

How does being assaulted affect sexual orientation? 
Sexual assault is in no way related to the sexual orientation of the perpetrator or the survivor, and a person’s sexual orientation cannot be caused by sexual abuse or assault. Some men and boys have questions about their sexuality after surviving an assault or abuse—and that’s understandable. This can be especially true if the you experienced an erection or ejaculation during the assault. Physiological responses like an erection are involuntary, meaning you have no control over them.

Sometimes perpetrators, especially adults who sexually abuse boys, will use these physiological responses to maintain secrecy by using phrases such as, “You know you liked it.” If you have been sexually abused or assaulted, it is not your fault. In no way does an erection invite unwanted sexual activity, and ejaculation in no way condones an assault.

What if abuse happened when I was a child or teen? 
If you were sexually abused when you were a child or a teenager, you may have different feelings and reactions at different times in your life. RAINN partners with 1in6, an organization dedicated to helping men who survived unwanted or abusive sexual experiences in childhood. Their website has answers to many of the questions or concerns you might have as an adult survivor. You also have the option of calling the national hotline (1.800.656.4673 [HOPE]) or the local SASC hotline directly: 706.571.6010.

What if the assault or abuse occurred when I was an adult? 
Some men who have survived sexual assault as adults feel shame or self-doubt, believing that they should have been “strong enough” to fight off the perpetrator. Many men who experienced an erection or ejaculation during the assault may be confused and wonder what this means. These normal physiological responses do not in any way imply that you wanted, invited, or enjoyed the assault. If you were sexually assaulted, it was not your fault.

How will this affect my relationship? 
​Coming forward about surviving sexual assault or sexual abuse can be difficult. It requires a lot of trust and understanding on both parties. 1in6 answers some of the questions you might have about telling a partner.
The following video is provided by Uplift- Online Communities Against Sexual Violence: 
References:
From RAINN.org (1 & 2); National Sexual Violence Resource Center: Info & Stats For Journalists (3-9)
  1. National Institute of Justice & Centers for Disease Control & Prevention, Prevalence, Incidence and Consequences of Violence Against Women Survey (1998)
  2. Department of Justice, Office of Justice Programs, Bureau of Justice Statistics, Female Victims of Sexual Violence, 1994-2010  (2013).
  3.  Walters, M.L., Chen J., & Breiding, M.J. (2013). The National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey (NISVS): 2010 Findings on Victimization by Sexual Orientation. Retrieved from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, National Center for Injury Prevention and Control: http://www.cdc.gov/ViolencePrevention/pdf/NISVS_SOfindings.pdf
  4. Breiding, M. J., Chen J., & Black, M. C. (2014). Intimate Partner Violence in the United States — 2010. Retrieved from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, National Center for Injury Prevention and Control: http://www.cdc. gov/violenceprevention/pdf/cdc_nisvs_ipv_report_2013_v17_single_a.pdf 
  5. Rennison, C. A. (2002). Rape and sexual assault: Reporting to police and medical attention, 1992-2000 [NCJ 194530]. Retrieved from the U.S. Department of Justice, Office of Justice Programs, Bureau of Justice Statistics: http://bjs.ojp. usdoj.gov/content/pub/pdf/rsarp00.pdf
  6. Black, M. C., Basile, K. C., Breiding, M. J., Smith, S .G., Walters, M. L., Merrick, M. T., … Stevens, M. R. (2011). The National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey: 2010 summary report. Retrieved from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, National Center for Injury Prevention and Control: http://www.cdc.gov/ViolencePrevention/pdf/NISVS_Report2010-a.pdf ​
  7. National Coalition to Prevent Child Sexual Abuse and Exploitation. (2012). National Plan to Prevent the Sexual Abuse and Exploitation of Children. Retrieved from http://www.preventtogether.org/Resources/Documents/ NationalPlan2012FINAL.pdf 
  8. Krebs, C. P., Lindquist, C., Warner, T., Fisher, B., & Martin, S. (2007). The campus sexual assault (CSA) study: Final report. Retrieved from the National Criminal Justice Reference Service: http://www.ncjrs.gov/pdffiles1/nij/grants/221153.pdf
  9. Finkelhor, D., Hotaling, G., Lewis, I. A., & Smith, C. (1990). Sexual abuse in a national survey of adult men and women: Prevalence, characteristics and risk factors. Child Abuse & Neglect 14, 19-28. doi:10.1016/0145-2134(90)90077-7

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